“So stop worrying about race so much. Stop trying to make this movement an actual “movement” and just go out and date whoever the fuck you want. I see so many of you underclassman trying to decipher each other as if Asians and Blacks are foreign species that need to be looked at under a giant microscope. Fun fact: this is dating, not honors microbiology.”—Rainer Maningding
Is there any way that AMBW meets can occur in the Northwest like Portland, OR or Seattle, WA? We just need some TLC from you guys on the west coast.
We need people from these areas to step up. My girlfriend spends a lot of time looking for meetup’s on the meetup site and posting it on here for you guys, but a lot of the times people won’t show up because they are too shy or for various other reasons. Thus people stop throwing meets.
So if anyone from any of these areas or other areas want to step up and arrange a meetup we’d be glad to help you do that to the best of our ability. You don’t really need money or anything to set it up, just a nice public place that is accessible to everyone and can entertain you guys for a couple of hours. Then the rest is up to everyone who shows up, make some new friends, or blossom a new relationship.
It seems like a lot of black women assume all Asian guys are just shy... Well it is possible he just doesn't like her or is not attracted to her. I live in Los Angeles, I interact with Asians a lot. I don't get a shy vibe from them at all. They're pretty outgoing. So to those who make this assumption, maybe he's just not the one and doesn't like you.
It could be your reasoning or it could be that because in Los Angeles they are just used to interacting more with different cultures so they aren’t so shy. You have to remember that a lot of these women are from smaller areas where maybe people of different colors don’t mingle together as much as they do in say LA or NY.
So, I'm in school and our teacher announces that we're having 2 male Japanese exchange students. I was happy and I really want to get to know them, but I am a very shy person and afraid to approach people... Any advice?
First thing you’re gonna have to do is raise your confidence level. Since they are new to this country, they will probably be really shy and really curious. So use their curiosity to your advantage because they will be much more friendly and easier to talk to cause of it. It will be just like transferring to a new school in a different state, they will be searching for friends to show them around and do stuff with….make sure that friend is you :P
I don't know if you've seen this video but I thought it was too cute and it made me too happy. Apparently I can't post links but this guy on youtube made a video (JaeSevenTS) about why he loves black women. It should be checked out. :)
You thought that video was cute? That video was full of stereotypes and it sounds as if hes being sarcastic…. I found that video extremely offensive.
Where i live it's like i see a bunch of Asian/Filipino men that i'm attracted to, but one of two things happen. 1. I start to flirt but he's shy or 2. I don't want to make the first move. What should I do?
Learn to make the first move lol. It’s gonna be like that sometimes with Asian men where they will be too shy to attempt a move because they aren’t used to attention from a Black woman or perhaps they are shy. So just go for it and see where it goes from there and of course keep us updated (:
My dad doesn't like any race but black people. He met my 1st boyfriend (who was asian/black) and hated him. However, he wanted to set me up with his friend's son (who was black/filipino). Before my 2nd boyfriend (asian/german) and I started dating, my dad (and two older brothers) flipped out on me because we hung out. We eventually began dating and are broken up now. I plan to date other asian men in the future, so this will still be an issue. How do you communicate with someone like that?
You just keep telling them that it shouldn’t matter the race of the person you love. That if they make you happy then they should be happy for you. If they still don’t respond kindly to whomever you are dating then tell them to kick rocks because it is your life and you have to do what makes you happy first.
First off, I want to say that I LOVE this blog! I love interracial couples. I'm a young Black woman and I've always been attracted to either White or Asian guys (especially Asian men). I would like to date an Asian guy sometime in the future, but I don't know how to approach them.
Depends on what type of Asian guy they are. If they have been around a lot of different races growing up then I’m sure they will be a lot easier to approach and you could approach them like any other guy. If they have not had much interaction with other races then I would approach them with a little caution because they might be a little more shy and you wouldn’t want to scare them away by being forward.
I am attracted to all shades of men. I've crushed hard on a few Asian men in my area and they seemed to like sistah's but then it seemed to me that they only like ones that knew how to "dance". Every time I would hang out with them they only wanted me to dance for them like show off a move. As much as I liked the guys for their manners and looks, I was so turned off by it because I felt like I was being stereotyped... What do you think about the situation? How do I avoid those type of men?
Try not to assume they are stereotyping you intentionally. Not everyone is lucky enough to be exposed to other cultures like you may have been, they could be trying to use those things because they are trying to relate to you, even if its in a stereotypical way. Not to say stereotyping is a good thing, because we should all have the common sense not to, but they may not have known they were saying or doing something offensive. You can avoid them by going after Asian men who have a diverse group of friends or have dated black women before. If anything just explain to them how that could be offensive. If they continue then drop their ass asap, You’re no mans video vixen.
sorry my friend was trippin -____- she was on my tumblr and thought your blog was about something else when she saw the other question answered on my dashboard. please delete that question.. she has been banned from using my tumblr for being an idiot >:/
Lmaooo im assuming you’re refering to the one flirting with my boyfriend. I will delete it, no problem lol
I'm neither black, nor asian, (although I love asian men like whoa!) and I love your blog. Every post of yours makes me smile when it comes up on my dash. :)
Haha thank you so much for the support. I love getting support from those who aren’t black or Asian, because I support IR relationships of all kinds. Statistics are showing 1 in 12 relationships in the U.S are interracial, time to blur the color lines.
This isn't really a question but it says black and yellow black and yellow and i thought that was funny because i am black and japanese and my friends say that all the time when trying to get my attention
lmao thats cute. Whenever that song comes on our friends point to us…. black n yellow black n yellow…
I have a story. During the weekend I was at a party and me and my friend were dancing. All of a sudden this really tall guy pulls me over to dance. I didn't pay any mind to what he looked liked, but when the song ended I looked up and he was Asian!! He told me that I was cute and asked for my number. I never would have thought that I would have been approached by an Asian guy. We've been talking the whole weekend. :)
That’s great to hear! Keep us updated on how that’s been going for you.
So i met this guy on facebook (korean) an we have been talking for a bit(he is in his late 20s as well),but then today he just told me he loves me-_-(i asked how can he love me so soon an he says he can't explain it) yeah really freaked out about that,but could it mean that culturally the word is thrown out faster? ,or could it be because of his age?
Maybe he is having a mid-life crisis and wants to find a wife asap before he get’s older or maybe he is just trying to get in your pants quicker. No one know’s his true motives other then him.
i absolutely love this blog. Love what people in the states are doing. Over here in England absolutely nothing no meet ups whatsoever and its sad. I have had load of Asian guy friends and i keep getting stuck in the friend corner. What do i do?
I don’t know if this will help you or if it works in every case, but this is what I did with the owner of this wonderful blog. At first she wanted to take things slow and be friends first but I knew what I wanted and it was her…so I was persistent about it and she said yes and we have been happy ever since.
Come by to Ben’s Open House for the afternoon (for food and hanging out) and perhaps going to the city in the evening (house won’t be available after 7:45 ish PM).
Please RSVP so we know how many people will be there and what you will be bringing.
This will be a Pot Luck so please feel free to bring a dish/ snacks/ etc. We’ll have Some Drinks, Food and Alcohol already there (FREE drinks provided by Will and the host but it’s first come first serve). That’s right, free booze! Don’t miss it.