so i was just wondering. is this blog only for the "typical" asian men? are there any black woman and indian couples in here? because we're asians too. just saying..
No its not. If I do get submissions other than the “typical” AMBW couples I do try to post them. I’ve had a few submissions with people who are mixed, but if I haven’t posted any with other Asian men I apologize for that. SUBMIT… and get off anon
So many of the beautiful couples I see on this website are younger than I am. I am interested in a relationship with someone in their late 30's to early 40's. Are there any AMBW sites that may cater to my age group? Thanks.
If you have a facebook page, I’d join Blasian Magazine. Blasian Magazine has a lot of older AMBW couples, many of them married. They offer a more conservative atmosphere than the other AMBW groups on facebook and give great advice overall. It’s a great group to be apart of.
I think its great that a blog like this is still up and running. With daily or monthly update from couples of black women who date Asian men. To me coming from someone who is Puerto Rican on both sides mixed with African and Italian. Judging by my heritage background being ‘mixed’ and dating outside is quite normal.
How can we Americans say we are the example of a multicultural society, that is liberal in accepting foreign and yet set boundaries on the identity of interracial unions?
In movies,mags,TV you see WM/BF(white male/black female),WW/BM( white women/black men),WM/AF(white men/Asian women,WM/HF(white men/ Hispanic female) to me is total crap. Black women have just as much options as any other women. There is more to black culture than people think. The same with white, Asian, and anyone else.
Bad enough in America we over generalize our race but also what is accepted as interracial.
So to all the beautiful black women out their, dark skin, light skin, mixed or a Nubian queen from the mother land. From one Afro-Latina (who is to damn proud to denounce my African and Spanish culture) to the rest of the black ladies out there..
Explore your options, the world is yours so take it regardless of what others say.
To the Asian men out there who date these beautiful ladies don’t forget to kiss her and appreciate who she is as a person.
You know the old saying “behind every strong man is an even stronger woman”
Also to all the single Asian guys short, tall, stocky, slender, South East Asian or East Asian. Who like to meet and date black women all you gotta do is walk up and say “hi.” Not all will answer back but at least you have the confidence that will travel throughout your life time.
Good luck to the couple running this site and all the pics from the couples feature on it :)
Yesterday was the Memorial Day BBQ thrown by the NYC AMBW group on meetup.com. I had great time and even got to meet one of my followers. (Hey Ashlee) It was so nice meeting all these new people and hanging out with my old friends from the facebook meetups. I encourage everyone who is in the area of one of these groups to check them out. As I told you guys before, I met my boyfriend at an AMBW meetup, and I know quite a few couples who have done the same. Even if you don’t meet someone, I know for a fact you’ll make great friends. Some of these women are so down to earth and fun.
How did you make friends on the bwamu site? I'm new on there and I tried to get in the whole convo in the main chat and everyone said hi at first but then cut me out the convo. I felt like such an idiot.
The way I made friends is simply by “camming up”…. there are so many fake profiles that people tend to only interact with people they’ve met or who have “cammed up”
"Cam up so I know it’s real"
Another way would be just by talking to someone who isn’t involved in the conversation that’s going on.
One way I used to get people to notice me is by using manycam and drawing on my camera. People would always be wondering what I’m going to draw next.
I hope one of these suggestions helped. I’m sorry if they’re not as welcoming as you thought they’d be.
If I want a guy to like me, should I learn their language?
No. If you want a guy to like you, you should be yourself. A guy should accept everything about you, as long as its not harming you or anyone else. I’ve never felt the need to learn another language for a guy to like me, neither should you.
The only time I’d recommend it is if you guys are getting serious and he wants you to meet his parents. If his parents are traditional, then it would look very good if you knew at least a few words or phrases. It would show you are making an effort.
Learn another language because it simply benefits you or makes you happy. Not for a man.
How long does it take for you to know you're in love with the person you're dating? I have a friend and she's been with this guy, happens to be Asian, for almost a year and1/2, and he still didn't say "I love you"! She believes that it's still early, but I really think that he's using her to "pass time"..What do you think?
I think it takes differing amounts of time for everyone to figure out if they truly love the person they are dating. Some may take weeks and others months or years.
As for your friends boyfriend, I don’t really know the story to be giving out solid advice but I’ll try my best. How long into the relationship did she wait to say “I love you”? What was his reaction to it? Why do you think he is using her to pass time?
Honestly it could be many reasons, maybe she did indeed say it too early cause she thought she should just say it. Maybe she truly feels as though she loves him and decided to just go on and say it already in hopes that he felt the same way. Perhaps he didn’t say it back because he honestly doesn’t feel that way just yet and it wouldn’t be right to force him to say just because she did. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he is using her, just that he isn’t ready to say those words just yet. I think it should be commendable that he didn’t say it back when she said it if he didn’t feel the same way because then it would seem as though he said it just to please her.
Those are just some ideas of what I think could be happening in both their minds and without knowing all the intimate details the best answer I can give you.
Let us know what happens in their relationship and we hope everything turns out for the best.
I have a crush on a Japanese guy and I'd like to maybe hang out or go see a movie with him sometime. Would it seem as though I'm coming on too strong if I ask him out?
Every time I see your avatar picture I have to do a double take because you look so much like someone I know lol.
Anyway back to your question…..No, it shouldn’t seem that way unless he is old fashioned then it may hurt his ego. When in reality he should feel better since a girl actually liked him enough to ask him out. Go for it and let us know how it all goes….good or bad.
omg my heart is about to explode, its this Cambodian guy that i liked for a lil bit and i sent him a message, short and sweet about how i felt!!!! im so scared of what he might say. hes a nice guy and we hung out before.... im just expecting rejection and i know im a beautiful girl...but alot of things factor in. i'll leave it to a higher power lol i'll keep you posted when he responds!!!
Good luck and we hope everything went how you wanted it too. Waiting anxiously for a happy message back from you. Glad you were able to take charge and go for what you wanted.
Lighthouse Park- 900 main street, Roosevlt Island, NY
Directions: Take the F train to Roosevelt Island. As soon as you get out of the train station. Take the Roosevelt Island RIOC Bus located just a few steps to your Right as you head out from the train station Cost for the Bus is a measly 25 cents.Then ask the Driver where is Lighthouse Park. Walking should be no more then 5-7 mins depending on your speed.
Driving: GPS to Roosevelt Island and as soon as you get there make a Right Turn. You can park in the Parking Lot if you want.
so maybe im the only who has had the same pic up on the ads bar in facebook but apparently mcdonalds is supporting ambw worldwide they have a picutre up on their facebook page of a black woman and asian man eating food if you havent see it
I’ve seen that pic floating around AMBW groups and blogs but I honestly don’t see why everyone is making a big fuss out of it. They’re just co workers. I wish it was something more, like an AMBW couple with a baby lol
You've probably been asked this before, I'm not sure. But do you think it would seem too stretched or desperate if a girl or guy signs up for online sites to meet an asian man or black woman?
I don’t think it would seem desperate at all. Online dating is become so common, it’s actually the way I met my boyfriend. I know SO MANY AMBW couples who have met this way. Just be careful, there are some real creepers out there.
So happy for the girl who has gone on a date with her mystery AMBW website guy! Giving the love because I am from London also! Haha! I just love this blog! Can't help but not send you guys messages! Haha! xx
Lol thanks for the support. You London people need to do a meetup lol
Met this guy through an am/bw site and today we had our first "date" & our first meeting eachother in person [we've been emailing eachother for the last month or so] it was actually pretty amazing, been as we'd been talking it wasn't so hard being myself around him. I don't know if this will go anywhere but we've already decided where our next two dates are going to be xD This friendship is one I want to keep :] London ladies! Don't give up! :] random message sorry lol
This isn’t random, actually this is the sort of thing I want to hear about. Like I’ve said before, my boyfriend and I met through an AMBW site, and our relationship is going so well, so I really encourage my other followers to join these sites. Let’s get real interaction going, and even if things don’t go well it’s worth a try right? I’m glad your date went well. Please keep me updated, I have high hopes for you guys :)
Hm.. really? I find it much harder for guys in the US than for guys in like Japaan, China, etc.... in those countries they see black/white/spanish women as exotic & many have expressed wanting girls like that... in the states/non asian countries the guys seem more conservative & are more 'azn pride' than anything else... maybe it's just from what ive seen? idk...
Being seen as “exotic” is not always a good thing. Usually guys that see black women as “exotic” want to experiment with them, and nothing more. I find with men who a more diverse circle of friends and maybe have grown up around black people, they tend to want more of a genuine relationship with a black women. They usually know what can be offensive and are just all around easier to date. I have “black pride” but I am in a relationship with an Asian man. I appreciate all cultures, not just my own. That’s just my opinion though. I guess we shouldn’t be generalizing though, I know there are exceptions to this.
Which Asian ethnicity do you believe is most likely to date a black girl?
There a lot of factors that play a part in Asian’s dating outside their race. Like were they born in America or in some Asian country. Were they raised with traditional Asian values or taught to have freedom of will.
If they were raised in America and grew up in a home with non traditional Asian values then I think they would be open to dating women of any race.
If they are from out of country then I would think they’d be a little less likely to date out of race but that’s not to say that they wouldn’t.
If I had to choose a race that is most likely to date a Black girl then I would say Filipinos just because that’s what I’ve seen the most of.
What habits does your bf/gf have that you love/hate? Hate is a strong word, maybe I should say dislike..
I don’t think we really have any habits that we dislike about each other. Neither of us smoke and we only drink on special occasions. I can’t think of anything that she does that would annoy me or cause me to dislike it.
Haha! I just read Jaqueline and Bryan's and I was beside myself with laughter! They seem to mesh so well and compliment each others personalities. Its so fricking cute! I died at Jacquline's comment to the black dude! Hahaha! That guy musta been hating proper! Oh gosh! That interview was gold! Sure put a smile on my face and I wish them all the best of luck for the future! :D
Lmao that’s what I told them. I love their personalities! Different from my other AMBW interviews for sure!
How can I tell if an Asian guy is attracted to me (or if he even likes black women)? So, there's this Korean guy that works at the H-mart that I visit often and....I am quite attracted to him. However, I have no clue how to become friendly with him or if he is even attracted to me. Kind of funny because at my local supermarket there is a black guy who works there, and I could immediately tell that he may be interested in me, but It's not so easy with this guy!
Take a note from the story we just posted involving Stace and just go up to him and start chatting. Let us know how it goes if you decide to do it!
We became a couple in high school and we were together for over seven years before tying the knot.
Flip: I saw Goat and then got to know him some more and had to have him… HAD TO.
Where do you live?
We both live in Georgia.
Do you get stares?
Yes, we do get stares, a lot of stares. Actually while at Hmart, a Korean grocery store, we almost caused an accident when a woman did a double-take to make sure she was seeing what she was seeing. We get a lot of double-takes.
Where was your first date?
Our first date was at a Regal Movie Theater.
What do your parents (both sets) think about your relationship?
Well, both our parents had their respective reservations at first, but now they are accepting of the relationship and now we are really close to each other’s respective families.
Have you ever received any offensive comments about you two as an interracial couple?
No, not really. One person thought that we were just dating because it’s a fad or a phase or whatever, but other than that nothing really is said to us. I mean, we do live in the south and I am pretty sure whatever they want to say is said behind closed doors. What is your favorite thing about each other?
Goat: I like her eyes. They are really expressive. I can tell when she’s happy, when she’s sad, when she’s angry, and when she wants me to come hither. Her booty would be second… maybe tied.
Flip: My favorite thing about Goat are his eyes, too. They look so honest, hopeful and warm. They were what drew me to him in the first place. He is such a great guy and so loving.
Whats the sweetest thing you’ve done for each other?
Goat: When I was worried about not being able to do well, she helps to give another perspective. She is always there whether I am down mentally, physically, or whatever. I know I can always call her no matter what.
Flip: This is kind of hard since we have been together for so long. The sweetest thing that he’s ever done for him is when I had to stay at a computer lab and I was really hungry, but I knew that he was working on stuff for his computer science class. He surprised me and brought a bunch of food, a sweater and lots of hugs and kisses, along with his work. The man is just plain amazing and thoughtful.
Do you have any advice for those seeking an AMBW relationship?
Flip: I personally think that you shouldn’t really go around seeking a type of relationship, but rather a type of person. I knew that I wanted someone who was family oriented, soft spoken, and would be able to reciprocate the love given.
Goat: I would say the same, don’t go out thinking, “I want an Asian dude, or a black chick,” because you want a person. You want the things that you want and you might find that in a White guy, or an Asian guy, or a Hispanic, or vice versa in females. But specifically in Asian men and Black women, I would say keep an open mind and if your parents don’t approve, if they have reasonable reasons for not approving then you can work through those, but if they’re racist — actually you can probably work through that too. Don’t just kick your parents out, they do care for you, so their advice and stuff does matter and such. Other than that try to keep an open mind and communicate a lot, because you come from different backgrounds, so you’ll have to compromise some times.