We officially met April 26 2009 [yes I still remember lol] at the old Chinatown Fair arcade. I noticed that he was this guy who had been making racial jokes a previous night and I said hi. He told me that he then saw my butt lol so he came in to talk to me. Soon after flirting and talking a bit we exchanged numbers and began dating soon after :D
Where do you live? Do you get stares?
We live in Bensonhurst together. We get some stares but WAY more when we get on the train or when we we’re in Manhattan. Older Asian people stare a lot and even one older couple were literally pointing at us. Since I’m black, a lot of black guys look at us and hate. It’s annoying. A lot of them make it seem like because I’m black and very curvy that’s it’s almost blasphemy to be with an Asian guy. *shrug*
Where was your first date?
Date..hm….the day we officially met a group of us ate at a Vietnamese restaurant. So I guess that’s a date lol
What do your parents (both sets) think about your relationship?
My mom doesn’t care about him being Asian at all. His mom and dad were different though. I know his mom would have rather he been with an Asian girl, or at least someone lighter skinned. Trust me, I know. But I think his mom likes me better, I’m sure his dad likes me too :]
Whats the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for each other?
Umm…..well the most romantic thing I can think of is that we were each other’s “first”. Pretty sweet if you ask me :] lol But anything other than that I don’t know. It’s been over 3 years so I can’t remember xD
Whats your favorite thing about each other?
Well I know that my favorite thing about him is his eyes. I say that his eyes are gentle, but he doesn’t really care for that lol
I’m sure his favorite thing about me is my big butt lol He also says that he loves how caring I am.
Have you ever received any offensive comments about you two as an interracial couple? If so, what was your reaction?
I heard a black guy in Chinatown yell “There is no way he is hitting that!” or something like that. I get very annoyed, but I’ve learned to laugh it off. Their jealousy is amusing.
Is this your first interracial relationship?
I dated a half Black half Hispanic guy before. And this isn’t James’ first either.
Do you see a lot of this pairing where you live?
I’ve seen it sometimes, but it doesn’t happen often. I think a lot of Asian guys are afraid to approach black women and vice versa. But luckily groups that cater to AMBW relationships make it easier for them to meet.
Do you have any advice for those seeking an AMBW relationship?
Just do what makes you happy. There will be people who won’t approve, maybe even your own family. You must have thick skin. But if your love is strong then no one can stand in the way.