Anonymous asked: I'm 18 years young AA and I'm very interested in Asian men. There is only one problem there isn't any asians that attend my college. When I watch ambw videos on utube who talk about finding their husband online or wherever makes me feel a bit like I'm just wasting my time. For me I feel like I'm being desperate watching these and hoping & waiting on my asain man to come my way but no. I'm not sure wht to do Give up on my love for Asians or wht. I don't like joining sites or anything. Any advice?
Not to be rude, but you can’t just sit on your ass hoping that someone will come and find you. Most Asian guys don’t think Black women like them, for most the possibility hasn’t even crossed their minds.
The main purpose of these sites is to encourage interaction between people who may have never interacted otherwise. Don’t see joining a group or site as being desperate, its just expanding your dating pool.
To be honest, when you say you have a “love for Asians”, it can come off desperate. You shouldn’t love Asians, you should love whom ever you’re in a relationship with, if he’s Black, Asian, or green with purple stripes.
itsgabrielleinwonderlandbitches asked: I love your blog! i'm 16 and i'm really attracted to Asian guys and my dad is half Chinese and Jamaican & my family knows that i like Asian guys and they're okay with it and my brother also likes Asian girls too but my friends at school make fun of me because of it, they think Asian guys are ugly and i always feel bad inside a little.
Brush it off and date who you want. If they’re really your friends, and care about you then they’ll respect your decision. A few of my friends couldn’t understand why I liked Black girls at first, but they eventually got over it. Now that they see how happy my girlfriend makes me, they understand.
Anonymous asked: I've been dating an Asian guy for about three months now. Everything is going well, except he has one habit that really annoys me. Almost every time we talk, he brings up the fact that I'm black and he's Chinese. It really bothers me because I feel like the only reason why he's even interested in me is because I'm black. Is this really an issue or am I blowing the situation out of proportion?
I don’t think you’re blowing things out of proportion, that is an issue and needs to be addressed. I don’t know anything about him besides what you’ve said, but if he brings up your skin color to the point where its bothersome, he may be fetishizing you. You may like him a lot, but do you want to be in a relationship with someone who only likes you because they think you’re something new and different to try? You’re not a toy or an experiment, and trust me once the excitement of being with a black girl is over, there will be no reason for him to stay with you. Drop him and find someone who likes the person inside, you’ll be much happier.
