Anonymous asked: I have this two year crush on a guy that I know. We talk occasionally but I'm afraid that he only sees me as a friend. I would love to tell him that I like him but boldness is not a characteristic of mine. I know that race shouldn't have any effect on my decision to tell him that I like him but I'm afraid. What shoul I do? Help. :/
Ask yourself whether you truly want to be with him. Ask yourself whether you will regret not telling him for a long time after. If the answer is yes to both of those questions then you should definitely gather up some courage and tell him before it’s too late and he’s in a relationship with someone else.
Life is too short to be hesitating cause you’re afraid of what the other person will say. You never know what could happen tomorrow…..next month….a year from now. You could be missing out on someone special just because you’re “afraid”.
I’m not trying to sound harsh but I speak from experience. All my life I was always known as the “quiet one” or the “shy one”. After seeing my girlfriend(before she was my girlfriend) I decided I had enough and gathered up my courage and started messaging her on Facebook. After a few months….yup she was a tough one…she finally answered me and we met up a short time later at a BBQ. As you can see that worked out very well for us, I’m the happiest that I’ve ever been and it’s all because I stopped being so shy and took some initiative.
Of course not every story will end up like this but you’ll never know unless you try. You just may end up getting lucky and finding the love of your life.
Anonymous asked: Once some Asian parents find out that their son is dating a black girl, they threaten to disown them. Why are they so heartbroken that they'd go to such dire extreme lengths? Could you explain that the reasoning behind this could be?
I believe the reasoning behind this for a lot of Asian parents is they are living in the past. What I mean by that is they believe their kids should either marry another Asian or a Caucasian person because those are the only ones they see as equal to them.
They could believe that people of color are all classified as “ghetto” and having a lack of manners. It isn’t your fault for these beliefs of course….they could have had a bad experience growing up or it could have been handed down from their parents or it could be just due to what they’ve seen on television.
Either way it’s up to you to not let it get to you and try your best to change their perception about other ethnicities. If they seem to dislike you in the beginning just shrug it off and let them really get to know you. There have been plenty of cases of where the parents grew to accept their son’s girlfriend over time.
And remember that not all parents have this mindset so don’t stress yourself out wondering “what if his parents hate me?” or “will they accept me?” Don’t let that control whether or not you try to date an Asian man.
Anonymous asked: okay so. I have always been one to date outside of my race. I am a Black, White and Polynesian girl (mostly black). I have always had a soft spot for asian guys. i'm home schooled so i have very little contact with the kids in my virtual classroom. well next school year im going back to public school. I'm kind of scared to go for an Asian guy because of stories about their parents not liking for them to date black girls. any advice on just going for it if things get serious
Just don’t think about it until the situation arises. If you do end up dating an Asian guy, you might not even encounter that problem with his parents. It’s best to not stress yourself out wondering what if because that may make you more afraid to approach an Asian man because of what his parents may think about you and his relationship.
My advice would be to just go for the guy you want. If you do come across parents that don’t accept you two as a couple….just remember that not everything is set in stone and they can change their minds. So don’t let that get you down and deter you from dating interracially.
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year, I met him online and he lives in China, I have seen him twice and he always stresses me that I should never be doubtful abt his love for me and there is a 7 year age gap between us but he looks 21.Tbh I'm worried because he is very handsome and we live so far, just throwing it out there, I'm mixed with black, white, and West Indian, but I'm asking, should I be worried? What should I do? He is working on a visa but I'm still worried
Honestly you should have probably waited to get into a relationship with him because it seem’s to me that long distance isn’t something you can fully handle.
You cannot determine whether or not he is more likely to cheat based on his age. There are plenty of cases of younger men who are willing to commit to one woman and older men who try to play the field and vice versa.
If he is telling you not to doubt his love for you then I see it as you having two choices. Either you can believe that he truly loves you and only you or you can take a break until he gets his visa and moves closer to you. That way you don’t have to worry about what he is doing in China and focus more on your relationship.
Anonymous asked: I'm 16 and I went to an asian christian youth group last year. I met a lot of people, and I added them on facebook, but I haven't talked to any of them. I'm pretty sure they've all forgotten who I am and it would be really awkward if I just started messaging any of them out of the blue. I just remember them being really friendly, and I'd love to go out with them. There's just so many asian guys that I know so much about but I'm scared of talking to them. I'm just really attracted to them.
I wouldn’t have met my wonderful girlfriend if I didn’t randomly message her out of the blue on Facebook. Take it from me, some things are worth pursuing if that’s what you truly want.
It might seem awkward to message people out of the blue after not talking for a while but that is the world we live in now. The internet makes it so much easier to keep in touch with people you already know and also to meet people you otherwise wouldn’t be able to meet.
You remember them as being really friendly so I’m sure that hasn’t changed. Just message them and remind them of where and how you met. I’m sure some may even remember you and you guys can play catch up. You can either reminisce online or invite each other out to coffee and chat that way.
If you really want to pursue a friendship or possibly more with them then you need to act quickly before more time passes by and they do completely forget about last year’s events. You have nothing to lose from trying and so much to gain if you do.
Anonymous asked: Sorry if I'm being a bother im the anon who talked about the guy who wanted to change his class the other day he randomly asked me 2 go dwntwn with him we went, he took take care of needed business n then we had a nice lunch (He paid 4 everything) we pretty much spend the whole day 2gether i mentioned a trip Im taking w our school n he wanted to kno if he was able 2 come too, he also offered to make me a Chinese dish thats popular in his city im terrible readin guys should i try 2 pursue him?
Don’t worry you aren’t a bother, we enjoy answering everyone’s questions and answer them to the best of our knowledge.
Yes, I think you should definitely try to pursue him. It seem’s to me that he is trying to give you hints that he is into you. Men don’t offer to cook for just anyone and I believe if you flirt openly with him, he will do the same.
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