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Anonymous asked: do you know of any meet-ups in texas?
There is a group in Dallas, but I’m not sure how active they are.
Arundel Mills Movie Meet (G.I. Joe)
Date & Time: May 11, 2013, 12PM-7 PM (1:20 PM Showing)
Where: Arundel Mills Mall
Meet-up Spot: In front of the theatre where you buy your tickets
Movie Meet Up! G.I. Joe is out so perfectly good meet up excuse and we can hang out in the mall afterwards. Movie showtime will be 1:20 PM and this is for the normal movie, not the 3D version.
RSVP here: http://bwamu2.ning.com/events/arundel-mills-movie-meet-g-i-joe
Meetup at the Walter’s Art Museum and a Day at the Park!
Date & Time: May 25, 12PM - 5 PM
Where: Walter’s Art Museum (Baltimore, MD)
Meet-up spot: In front of the Walter’s front doors
Let’s visit the park and Walter’s Art Museum! It’s free to visit the Walters’ Art Museum and we can chill in the park before or afterwards. You can bring your own lunch.
RSVP here: http://bwamu2.ning.com/events/art-meetup-at-walter-s-art-museum
Inner Harbor Hangout and 4D Moving Theatre
Date & Time: June 8, 1PM - 5 PM
Where: Inner Harbor (Baltimore, MD)
Meet-up Spot: Outside Noodles & Company
Let’s chill at the Inner Harbor in Baltimore. There’s a 4D Moving Theatre at Ripley’s Believe It or Not that seems to be a lot of fun! We can also walk around the harbor, eat at the local spots, visit stores or just watch people perform at the amphitheaters.
RSVP here: http://bwamu2.ning.com/events/downtown-hangout-at-the-inner-harbor
Food and Karaoke!
Date & Time: June 14, 6PM - 10PM
Where: Joung Kak & Rainbow Music Studio (Baltimore, MD)
Meet-up Spot: Joung Kak (18 W 20th St, Baltimore, MD)
Hang out, eat and sing in Baltimore’s K-Town. We’ll eat at Joung Kak, get to know each other and away we go up the street to sing at Rainbow Music Studio. Here’s how pricing works at Rainbow Music Studio: $35 for up to 6 people, $45 for up to 12, so on and so forth. Joung Kak’s pricing is really affordable and with big portions, really great!
Cost: Varies, $30 (recommended)
RSVP here: http://bwamu2.ning.com/events/food-and-karaoke
Anonymous asked: I see you get a lot of "How do I talk to..." questions so I just wanted to share. I had a huge crush on my bf of 6 years but didn't talk to him at all in person even though we went to the same school and knew each other through friends. Got his AIM and spoke to him online *a lot* for almost a year... Suddenly after summer break, I could tell he had a *huge* crush on me and we immediately entered into a relationship already knowing each other well. Semi-online "dating" is an option too guys :)
Thats what I’ve been telling people to do. It’s so much easier for a lot of people to be open and not so shy online as opposed to real life. That helps alleviate a lot of the pressures of talking to someone out of the blue in person.
Thats actually very similar to how my girlfriend and I started talking. I started messaging her on Facebook and after a while she finally responded to me. Eventually we met up at a BBQ and everything after that led to where we are today.
It’s good to see other stories similar to ours and that shows that a lot of couples actually start off online these days. This is a good idea for a lot of people who are naturally shy in person.
Anonymous asked: So there's this Korean guy that go to my university. We have one class together and we're sort of close. We sit next to each other in class and we kind of play around sometimes. We also wait for each other after class ends and get on the train together (each to our respective homes), but I still don't know if he likes me or if he's just being nice. What do I do ? I don't want to be aggressive, because I value this "friendship" we have.
The first step would be to think long and hard about whether or not you want to take your friendship to the next level. A lot of friends get into relationships and something winds up happening which causes them to breakup effectively ending both your relationship and the friendship you once had. Not saying that breaking up means you can’t be friends but most couples do not stay in touch after a breakup.
The next step, if you do decide you want to pursue a relationship with him would be to talk to him about it. See where he stands on the situation and if he is looking for a relationship right now.
If he is looking for a relationship then make it known how you feel about him and hopefully he will feel the same way and ask you out on a date. After that hopefully everything works out well and you both end up in a happy situation.
afurika-d0ll asked: Hello I just wanted some advice about how to overcome ur shyness and talk to people that u want .. whenever I see someone attractive ( mostly asian ) I just tend to stare and not doing anything because im scared of their reaction/rejection.. ik lots of my friends told me oh blah blah it's the action that count etc.. but I just cant I dont know why .. after all I've got left are regrets and regrets and regrets.. specially when the person is really cute .. im just like do they also find me attract
I was really shy in High School so I used the internet as a way to let people see my personality. I would log onto chatrooms and social networking sites and make friends that way. It was a big confidence booster knowing that I could make friends online with my personality and that showed me that I shouldn’t be so shy in real life.
You won’t know if they find you attractive unless you try. Even if you do get rejected don’t let it get to you, everyone gets rejected at one point in their lives. Don’t let fear control your life.
paperplanechaser asked: I've known this really nice and awesome Chinese guy since I as 18. I used to work at the store next to his mom's and we'd see each other all the time. Now that I'm working somewhere else, I don't get to see him that often, but when I do he's always happy to see me and his mom kinda teases us a little. I kinda like him, but I'm not sure if he and I are on the same page. Any advice?
Personally I’d talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel before it’s too late. It’s better to know how he feels instead of wondering what could have been cause you didn’t do anything. Just make sure you do like him as something more than just a friend before you try to do anything. You don’t want to pursue a relationship with him and then realize later on that you preferred him as just a friend.
It’s also a positive sign that his mom teases you guys because that could mean that she isn’t opposed to him dating a Black woman. It’s always good to know you would have a parents approval before anything so that cannot be a problem you face down the road.
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Anonymous asked: So I'm a freshmen in college and a few months ago I became friends with this guy (he's Chinese) in my chemistry class, I help him a lot because of the language.we were talking about our schedule for next semester and we have two classes that are the same but one we have on separate days. But he wants to change his schedule so that we have both classes together. What do you think that mean.? I don't want to read too much in to it.
On one hand it could just be because his english isn’t so good and you could help him understand the class easier.
On the other hand he could be doing it because he has feelings for you and wants to spend more time with you.
Either way it’s up to you to pursue a relationship if you feel thats the route you want to take and hopefully he is doing it because of the latter reason.
Anonymous asked: I don't know if this has been asked before but when you guys first met was it that kind of love at first sight kind of thing or did you guys just gradually begin to like each other?
It wasn’t necessarily love at first sight, but we did think the other was very cute. Then over time after talking to one another and hanging out did we begin to like each other.
I remember texting her every night while at work….she would stay up late just to keep me company lol. And then eventually we grew to love each other as much as we do today.
Anonymous asked: how should you approach your parents and tell them you're dating someone black if they are racist and don't want you dating someone black, but rather someone asian? and what should be said?
Personally I would ease my girlfriend into their lives. Bring her around maybe once a week so they get used to her. Don’t just spring her on them during a major family holiday like Christmas or something.
The main thing they need to eventually grow to like/love her like you do is time. My dad was very racist towards a lot of people as I was growing up but eventually he just let it go…mostly. I told him about my girlfriend and he just made sure that she made me happy. After I told him yes he just asked for a picture of us together.
I think you should just tell them that she is the one who makes you happy. She’s the one you feel like completes you and that no one else can give you the love that she does. Tell them that it is your life after all and that times aren’t the same as when they were growing up. Let them know that she is a part of your life. Tell them that you didn’t feel the things with an Asian girl that you feel for her and that true love see’s no colors.
Hopefully they will come around and accept her as a member of the family…even if it does take some time for it to happen.
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certifiedladipink-deactivated20 asked: Hi I am a black woman & I always wanted to date outside my race, but my grandmother doesnt approve. I was watching Big Bang the other day and the first thing she said was " You know Asian men wont take home a Black woman" I find this very discouraging. I believe that she wants me to stay in my race but I feel I shouldn't HAVE to date a Black men. Whats wrong with other options? Any tips to just EVEN talking to guys outside my race first? I know you cant change my grandma but I just need advice
My advice would be to go with your feelings. If you want to date outside of your race then don’t let anyone stand in the way of that.
A good way to talk to guys outside of your race would be online. It removes all of the shyness either party might otherwise have in real life. If you are old enough then I might suggest joining any of the countless AMBW groups on Facebook. There might even be a meet up site for your area where you can meet up with a group of like-minded people.
I think the thing with older people a lot of times is that they are stuck in the past. They still believe that the world is segregated and that people aren’t open to dating outside of their race. That problem also occurred with my father who when I was younger did not tolerate Black people very much. I knew a lot of it had to do with the area we lived in and his past experience with them while growing up but eventually they will realize that they can’t stop you from loving who you want to love. When I told my father about my current girlfriend and that she was Black, all he wanted was a picture of us and he asked if she made me happy. When I told him that she did, thats all he cared about and it made me glad that he accepted her.