Anonymous asked: okay so. I have always been one to date outside of my race. I am a Black, White and Polynesian girl (mostly black). I have always had a soft spot for asian guys. i'm home schooled so i have very little contact with the kids in my virtual classroom. well next school year im going back to public school. I'm kind of scared to go for an Asian guy because of stories about their parents not liking for them to date black girls. any advice on just going for it if things get serious
Just don’t think about it until the situation arises. If you do end up dating an Asian guy, you might not even encounter that problem with his parents. It’s best to not stress yourself out wondering what if because that may make you more afraid to approach an Asian man because of what his parents may think about you and his relationship.
My advice would be to just go for the guy you want. If you do come across parents that don’t accept you two as a couple….just remember that not everything is set in stone and they can change their minds. So don’t let that get you down and deter you from dating interracially.
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year, I met him online and he lives in China, I have seen him twice and he always stresses me that I should never be doubtful abt his love for me and there is a 7 year age gap between us but he looks 21.Tbh I'm worried because he is very handsome and we live so far, just throwing it out there, I'm mixed with black, white, and West Indian, but I'm asking, should I be worried? What should I do? He is working on a visa but I'm still worried
Honestly you should have probably waited to get into a relationship with him because it seem’s to me that long distance isn’t something you can fully handle.
You cannot determine whether or not he is more likely to cheat based on his age. There are plenty of cases of younger men who are willing to commit to one woman and older men who try to play the field and vice versa.
If he is telling you not to doubt his love for you then I see it as you having two choices. Either you can believe that he truly loves you and only you or you can take a break until he gets his visa and moves closer to you. That way you don’t have to worry about what he is doing in China and focus more on your relationship.
Anonymous asked: I'm 16 and I went to an asian christian youth group last year. I met a lot of people, and I added them on facebook, but I haven't talked to any of them. I'm pretty sure they've all forgotten who I am and it would be really awkward if I just started messaging any of them out of the blue. I just remember them being really friendly, and I'd love to go out with them. There's just so many asian guys that I know so much about but I'm scared of talking to them. I'm just really attracted to them.
I wouldn’t have met my wonderful girlfriend if I didn’t randomly message her out of the blue on Facebook. Take it from me, some things are worth pursuing if that’s what you truly want.
It might seem awkward to message people out of the blue after not talking for a while but that is the world we live in now. The internet makes it so much easier to keep in touch with people you already know and also to meet people you otherwise wouldn’t be able to meet.
You remember them as being really friendly so I’m sure that hasn’t changed. Just message them and remind them of where and how you met. I’m sure some may even remember you and you guys can play catch up. You can either reminisce online or invite each other out to coffee and chat that way.
If you really want to pursue a friendship or possibly more with them then you need to act quickly before more time passes by and they do completely forget about last year’s events. You have nothing to lose from trying and so much to gain if you do.
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Anonymous asked: So there's this Korean guy that go to my university. We have one class together and we're sort of close. We sit next to each other in class and we kind of play around sometimes. We also wait for each other after class ends and get on the train together (each to our respective homes), but I still don't know if he likes me or if he's just being nice. What do I do ? I don't want to be aggressive, because I value this "friendship" we have.
The first step would be to think long and hard about whether or not you want to take your friendship to the next level. A lot of friends get into relationships and something winds up happening which causes them to breakup effectively ending both your relationship and the friendship you once had. Not saying that breaking up means you can’t be friends but most couples do not stay in touch after a breakup.
The next step, if you do decide you want to pursue a relationship with him would be to talk to him about it. See where he stands on the situation and if he is looking for a relationship right now.
If he is looking for a relationship then make it known how you feel about him and hopefully he will feel the same way and ask you out on a date. After that hopefully everything works out well and you both end up in a happy situation.
Anonymous asked: I don't know if this has been asked before but when you guys first met was it that kind of love at first sight kind of thing or did you guys just gradually begin to like each other?
It wasn’t necessarily love at first sight, but we did think the other was very cute. Then over time after talking to one another and hanging out did we begin to like each other.
I remember texting her every night while at work….she would stay up late just to keep me company lol. And then eventually we grew to love each other as much as we do today.
Anonymous asked: how should you approach your parents and tell them you're dating someone black if they are racist and don't want you dating someone black, but rather someone asian? and what should be said?
Personally I would ease my girlfriend into their lives. Bring her around maybe once a week so they get used to her. Don’t just spring her on them during a major family holiday like Christmas or something.
The main thing they need to eventually grow to like/love her like you do is time. My dad was very racist towards a lot of people as I was growing up but eventually he just let it go…mostly. I told him about my girlfriend and he just made sure that she made me happy. After I told him yes he just asked for a picture of us together.
I think you should just tell them that she is the one who makes you happy. She’s the one you feel like completes you and that no one else can give you the love that she does. Tell them that it is your life after all and that times aren’t the same as when they were growing up. Let them know that she is a part of your life. Tell them that you didn’t feel the things with an Asian girl that you feel for her and that true love see’s no colors.
Hopefully they will come around and accept her as a member of the family…even if it does take some time for it to happen.
certifiedladipink-deactivated20 asked: Hi I am a black woman & I always wanted to date outside my race, but my grandmother doesnt approve. I was watching Big Bang the other day and the first thing she said was " You know Asian men wont take home a Black woman" I find this very discouraging. I believe that she wants me to stay in my race but I feel I shouldn't HAVE to date a Black men. Whats wrong with other options? Any tips to just EVEN talking to guys outside my race first? I know you cant change my grandma but I just need advice
My advice would be to go with your feelings. If you want to date outside of your race then don’t let anyone stand in the way of that.
A good way to talk to guys outside of your race would be online. It removes all of the shyness either party might otherwise have in real life. If you are old enough then I might suggest joining any of the countless AMBW groups on Facebook. There might even be a meet up site for your area where you can meet up with a group of like-minded people.
I think the thing with older people a lot of times is that they are stuck in the past. They still believe that the world is segregated and that people aren’t open to dating outside of their race. That problem also occurred with my father who when I was younger did not tolerate Black people very much. I knew a lot of it had to do with the area we lived in and his past experience with them while growing up but eventually they will realize that they can’t stop you from loving who you want to love. When I told my father about my current girlfriend and that she was Black, all he wanted was a picture of us and he asked if she made me happy. When I told him that she did, thats all he cared about and it made me glad that he accepted her.
Anonymous asked: hey! there is this cute asian guy at this restaurant that i go to. everytime i go, he always stares at me and smiles at me. he always tries to serve my table, and if i ever try to call a staff member he comes instead or interrupts. he also often tries to get my attention while im there, and sometimes asks random qs about myself. what do i do?! we have each other on facebook but rarely talk on there, but in real life, its so different! how can i know if hes truly interested and what to do next?
It sounds to me that he might be interested in you if he is doing all those things. From personal experience, I think the easiest way to know if he is interested is by talking to him more on Facebook. That is how I started talking to my girlfriend at first and it helped make me more comfortable around her when we finally did meet. Get to know him on Facebook and over time just ask him if he would like to go out somewhere after he is off work or something. After that it should all just come naturally. If he is truly interested he will gladly say yes and you guys will go out and have fun and I’m sure you will see signs of him liking you.
Anonymous asked: There's this asian guy who sits behind me in one of my classes and he's very attentive to me. He's cleaned my glasses for me a few times and has something to ask me about another class we share everyday. I cant tell if he likes me or he's just nice.
The only way to find out is to ask him. If you ask him and he does like you then you can continue down that path together. If he doesn’t like you as anything more than a friend then you can continue being friends. Hope that helps!
marthabby asked: So there is this really cute asian guy in my biology lab class in college and he is ALWAYS looking at me. We talked once but that was just so he could get some notes from me (but he could have asked anyone else). What should I do?
If you like him and would like to get to know him better then the only thing you can do is talk to him. Ask him for his notes or ask him for help in the class with something. Just do something to start up a conversation and go with the flow of things. Don’t force talk of relationships and such into the conversation, just let it come naturally.